humanist?

i was reading through the humanist manifesto today, both I and II, and I began thinking about labels. Both Kris (my partner) and I have been discussing this the past couple of days. What do I label myself? As a general rule I dislike labels because they lead to a predisposition of assumptions and judgments from others, but I wonder are they beneficial in some way. How and when do labels become effective and necessary, if ever? i.e. Is admitting you're an alcoholic the first step to recovery, or is defining yourself as a feminist a sort of commitment to the cause?

As I read through the humanist manifesto I decided that yes indeed I am willing to label myself as a HUMANIST, and above that I think that I would call myself a humanist above calling myself a feminist. Because it's not that I want to fight a war in the name of women it's more about fighting a war for all human rights. It is never going to be about battling stereotypes of one kind or another it's about all of them. And this leads me another question I want to pose you my readers...
Do you think that humor that furthers stereotypes should be accepted and even laughed at by a devoted humanist?Am I a bad person for laughing at a joke about how women should be in the kitchen? Should there be a difference when the joke comes from my friends or if it comes from a stranger?
Kris often accuses me of being overly sensitive to feminist issues. He says I over react to certain things like, when a male jokes about how all feminists really just want to be men, or a simple comment regarding the objectification of a woman. Is it over-reacting? When did I stop reacting and start over reacting, where is that line?
Tell me what you think, and I'll keep filtering out my thoughts for you.


***NOTE: cross-posted from my other non-assignment blog uteal2@blogspot.com